Dear Harry

Dear Harry,

My best friend and I are super close, but lately it seems as if she can’t stand me.  I haven’t done anything at all. I think she’s just bored of me. What do I do?

Sincerely, Biffle Help

Dear Biffle,

A relationship consists of two people working to keep it going. If one person is not contributing to the relationship or if they are doing all the work, then it is just simply not fair and pointless. Remember, even best friends fight. It is normal to feel a little annoyed by a person that you are hanging out with the majority of the time. I recommend you talk with that person and tell them how you feel. Try giving her space but remind her that you are still going to be there regardless.

Best of Luck, Harry

 

Dear Harry,

Every time I go home I always get in a fight with my mom over the smallest things. I believe it is just because she is so stressed at work, and she takes it out on me. I tried talking to her but she does not listen. What can I do? Please Help!

Sincerely, Blonde Girl 712

 

Dear Blonde Girl 712,

I understand you feel hurt right now but the best way to fix your relationship with your mother is by talking to her when both of you are calm. While you talk to her do not use “you” words such as “you never” or “you get angry.” You want to avoid putting the blame on her. Try using “we” words, like “when we fight” or “it makes our relationship uncomfortable.” Then let her know, calmly and seriously, how the fighting makes you feel. No one can argue with your feelings. Try to even laugh about when you fought over something stupid. Your mother loves you and wants the best for you. Consider this as an opportunity to connect with her on a deeper level.

Your Friend, Harry

Dear Harry,

I’m new to the school and people pick on me because I have a different religion. What should I do?

Sincerely, Anonymous

 

Dear Anonymous,

Being a new student at a new school is not the easiest transition in your teenage life, especially if you have a religion people don’t seem to understand. Luckily, it is manageable. If you are comfortable and confident with your religion, simply try to ignore them. When people do not understand something they tend to approach the situation by attacking it. If you ignore them and they continue to bother you, seek administrative help. At the end of the road, your real friends will stick up for you and accept you for you.

Your Friend, Harry